When you meet someone, you like and find attractive, and you would want to have a relationship with them and even get married to them…
…get to know them really well first, before you think of getting sexually or romantic involved with them.
This is very important.
Don’t fall in love too fast
Don’t get intimate or sexual with a person far too early.
Don’t rush into a relationship with someone you just meet and barely know.
Don’t be in a hurry to rush into romance, sex, or plan on getting married just yet…
…not until you can be sure or certain the person has the qualities of a person you would want to be in a relationship with or will make a great partner.
Most people jump hastily into a romantic and sexual relationship without regard, then find they’ve become hopelessly entrenched with someone who is incompatible in an unhealthy or even poisonous way to them…
…don’t make the same mistake.
Don’t be blinded by a person’s physical attractiveness.
Of course, it can be very tempting to want to get intimate or sexual with a person you find attractive and desire…
…but you will have to resist it, not until you find out what kind of person you’re dealing with.
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Don’t get intimate or sexual with a person too early
Get to know a person really well…
…before you think of getting sexually or romantic involved with them.
This is very important when it comes to finding that great love of your life.
You see, you can’t know right away if a person will be right for you.
You don’t know whether they’re sleeping around, whether they’re interested in you for you, whether they’re going to take advantage of you, whether they’re a horrible people…
…and getting sexually or romantic involved far too early can be a fatal mistake.
The fact is, not every physically attractive person you meet will be right for you.
And just because a person seems nice and innocent, doesn’t mean they cannot be horrible or cause you grief.
Plus, just because you have something in common with someone doesn’t mean they will be perfect for you.
You will have to look past a person’s looks and find out what kind of person you’re dealing with.
You need to know a person very well before you move things into the romantic arena.
It’s not going to take 3 days to know a person…
…it’s not going to take a week.
It’s going to take a long time to really know someone.
So when you meet someone you like…
…hold off the idea of having a romantic and sexual relationship with them just long enough to know who they really are and what they are about…
…and most especially if they have the qualities of a person you would want to be in a relationship with.
You have to determine if they will make a great partner and wouldn’t be otherwise.
Recognize if you can trust them.
No matter how nice a person is, they may not be the one or may not be right for you.
A person can have qualities that make them a good relationship material but may have certain behaviors and traits that are undesirable or will be undesirable to you.
A big mistake we make is to think that a person we have a strong affection for is the one.
But the truth is, we cannot be certain until much later.
As they say, “there is no love at first sight, only lust at first sight that turns into something long-term”.
And as author Real Talk Kim has written:
“Just because someone looks good doesn’t mean they’re good for you. Spoiled milk is still white.”
…so get to know a person really well before you think of getting sexually or romantic involved with them.
Understand:
When you meet someone and you will want to have a romantic and sexual relationship with them, don’t get intimate or sexual with them just yet.
Stay detached enough to recognize if they have the qualities of a person you would want to be in a relationship with.
The longer you wait to get involved with a person, the more you will know about them to make the right decision – to decide on whether to have a relationship with them or find another person.
This’s what you do:
When you meet someone you think you like, pursue a friendship first…
…until you get to know them better to decide if you want to pursue a relationship later.
Pursuing friendship first instead of an outright sexual relationship will give you a better opportunity to observe and evaluate them.
NEVER think about a ‘long-term relationship’ with them in the beginning…
…instead be friends and sit back and observe them.
And if later they prove to be someone who has the qualities of a person you would want to be in a relationship with, then you pursue a relationship with them.
So when you meet someone you think you like, start as friends, hang out, go out, have fun, and connect with them.
Resist any temptation to get intimate with them – hold off intimacy until you get to know them better to decide if you want to get involved sexually.
Hint:
Make sure you never give the person the impression that you’re looking for a relationship… since you should not really be going in that direction for now.
So here – the friendship phase – keep things light and fun.
Do not do romantic stuff with them yet… give no extravagant or expensive gifts.
Don’t do anything that will have you come across as you’re looking for a relationship.
Study them for at least three months…
…or do it longer, if at all possible.
Moving on…
So here, as you pursue friendship…
…observe and evaluate the person to make a healthy decision
Be watchful and wary of a person’s actions and behaviors, and determine if you can trust them to be a great partner.
Keep your eyes open to the behaviors and traits that they exhibit and make sure they are what you want.
Here, when you find they’re the opposite of the kind of person you would want to have a relationship with, when they exhibit bad or undesirable behaviors or conducts, if you feel they won’t make a great partner if you feel you cannot trust them, you move and find someone else.
Don’t care how good-looking or attractive a person is…
…if they don’t have the qualities of a person you would want to be in a relationship with and more importantly, if they exhibit undesirable behaviors or causes you unhappiness more than they bring joy into your life, you will have to find someone else.
Again, as I mentioned earlier, just because someone looks good doesn’t mean they will be good for you. And just because a person seems innocent and nice, doesn’t mean they cannot be horrible.
As they say, “beauty is only skin deep, but character is to the bone”.
…so you will need to be watchful and wary of a person’s actions, keep your eyes open to their behaviors and conducts that they exhibit, and make sure they are what you want.
Don’t try to change a person when they exhibit traits you don’t like…
…you might achieve some short-term success, but long-term, you will only reap disappoint, resentment, hurt, and any other negative emotions.
Plus, don’t fall into the trap of thinking they will change or things will get better when you settle down with them or get married… it might not.
Heck! It WON’T.
In fact, it will even get worse.
Again, don’t care how good-looking or attractive a person is.
Understand… you’re better off single and alone than with the wrong person.
Relevant Reading:
- A Powerful Way To Build Attraction With A Girl You Have A Crush On
- 10 Revealing Signs You Have Met Your Soul Mate
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So there you have it…
Get to know a person really well before you think of getting sexually or romantic involved with them or before you think of getting married to them.
I hope this article has given you a deep insight into what to do before you get into a relationship.
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Josh Manuel is not a relationship therapist. He’s not a pick-up artist. But he brings you quality information on dating and relationship. He offers the best dating tips and relationship advice that will change your love life today. He shares his experiences with you in the hopes that it will help you improve your personal relationship with women. He also teaches stuff that has nothing to do with dating, but the sex aspect of relationship. You can find his blogs at www.guysandgurls.com
